Let your relationship move from strength to strength with this guide to letting your guard down.
Whether you believe in love at first sight or in the gradual building of a solid relationship over time, there’s no denying that sharing your life with a significant other is something incredibly special. Returning home after a long day to wrap your arms around your partner is a glorious feeling; one that can simply melt the stresses and the strains away.
Call me a hopeless romantic, but I honestly believe there is a someone out there for everyone. The question is whether you are prepared to let them into your life, to share the highs and the lows, the upsets and the moments of joy.
Of course it’s not always that easy. Many of us have experienced past hurts that keep us from letting down our guards to a new love. The fear of being damaged, a lack of self confidence and even general busyness are all reasons why we sometimes opt to go it alone, rather than experiencing the ecstasy of sharing the life that we lead. That’s why I have put together this simplistic guide to letting your guard down:
- Realise that your new partner is a new person. It’s hard to stand close to the fire when you’ve only recently been burnt. The internal scars that we bear constantly remind us that the last time we let our guard down we were hurt. If this is something keeping you from sharing your life with your new love, then I encourage you to recognise that this is a new person. You must stop judging them on the standards of the person that hurt you.
- Learn to love yourself. If you can’t learn to appreciate your own strengths instead of focusing blindly on your weaknesses then how can you expect anyone else to do the same? There is a wealth of good in you and it’s time to become aware of it!
- Make time for relationship. Life keeps us constantly busy, but there is always the opportunity to make time for your relationship. Set aside a ‘date night’ a week during which you can focus solely on one another. You might need to hire a babysitter or cancel some other plans, but this chance to dedicate time solely to one another will help your relationship move from strength to strength.
For a more in depth guide to maximising your happiness within your relationship have a look at my eBook. It’s time we stopped going it alone, and realise that we as humans crave the affection of another.